When Grief gets the better of you.

Grieving the loss of someone you love is a natural and healthy process to work through. 

The experts tell us there are 'stages' of grief- Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptence. Grief is different for every individual and is far from linear. Many people get 'stuck' between the stages or 'loop' between two or three stages. For me, I've been stuck between Anger and Depression- and that's OK.

The goal is to ultimately arrive at Acceptence. I like this term because it doesn't suggest you should be happy about it or that what has happened is fair or justified. You just need to accept that this is what has happened.

Grief may well change your prespective on life. Many major life events will alter your prespective, as they should. The term, 'life will never be the same' is true, but it doesn't mean your life must be worse off.

How you manage your grief is up to you. Keep in mind, shutting it away and pretending it's not there is not managing your grief. Ignoring it doesn't make it go away. Going through the uncomfortable process of dealing with grief is the only way through it.

Sometimes professional help may be required to move through the process. The experts tell us that with the proper support we can get through grief and get on with our lives.

Having a tear every now and then thinking about someone who has passed is normal. If you find yourself 'stuck' or that your greif is impacting your ability to work or relate to others or is constantly on your mind, it may be time to reach out to a professional for support.

I have some contacts on the Sunshine Coast who may be helpful. Please feel free to contact me for more information.